It’s Not Just Ok to Cry, It’s Vital

It’s extremely frustrating to me how crying is seen as a sign of weakness, especially in men. Maybe it’s the result of the old-fashioned, and frankly sexist idea that men are supposed to be stoic because we’re somehow made to be stronger, while women are supposedly over-emotional and therefore they can’t help but have hysterical crying fits. I hope my wording stressed this enough, but just in case, I DON’T AGREE WITH THOSE IDEAS!

Crying isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a normal human response to feelings like grief, trauma, sadness, and frustration. Sometimes those of us with depression cry for no reason at all, and that’s ok too. Crying is a way to get those bad feeling out of us, quite literally in fact, as crying helps your body get rid of stress hormones. Bottling those tears in is doing yourself no favors, and keeping those bad emotions and bad hormones trapped inside you.

If you’re the kind of person who usually tries to keep themselves from crying then try to let it out next time you feel the need. Get yourself somewhere you can be alone and just let the waterworks flow. You don’t have to sob uncontrollably, just let it out in the way that feels right.

Sometimes though, crying seems impossible. I’ve had many days where I feel like I need to cry and it just won’t come out. I’ve even had times in my life where I’d go weeks with that feeling. If you’ve never felt that before, just imagine that feeling when you need to sneeze but you can’t. It’s almost exactly like that, except instead of a tickle in your nose it’s this sense of sadness you just can’t shake. I’ve found the best thing to do is to not force it, just allow yourself to feel bad and try to let those feelings out in another healthy way. I’m partial to pillow punching as it’s a great outlet that doesn’t break anything or more importantly bring harm to yourself or others (unless you have really hard pillows, in which case get some new pillows).

It’s ok to cry, no matter who you are, no matter what you’re going through. You don’t need to feel ashamed, or weak, or like you’re being too emotional. By letting yourself cry you are allowing yourself to not only relieve emotional pressure but also to heal. That is a sign of strength and bravery.

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